I'm finally coming out...

For nearly three decades, my identity has been wrapped up in a single label: IT guy. That’s who I was at work, that’s how my friends described me, and that’s what most people thought when they heard my name. But over the past few years, something shifted. I started questioning whether that identity still fit me—and the answer was clear.

I was meant for more.

This post is part announcement, part reflection, and part challenge to you if you’ve ever felt stuck in one role for too long.

But here’s the twist: I’m not doing this alone.

I’ve partnered with a man—my friend Shane—to launch something bigger than either of us could build on our own. Together, we’re creating content, conversations, and a community designed to help people set goals, grow, and transform their lives.

This partnership isn’t about ego; it’s about synergy. He brings his experience, I bring mine, and together we challenge and sharpen each other.

So why should you care? Because my story might be your story.

Maybe you’ve worn the same label for years—parent, professional, provider—and deep down, you know there’s something more waiting for you. Maybe you’ve been ignoring that nudge, afraid of what people will say if you “come out” of the role they’ve placed you in.

Here’s the truth: transformation doesn’t happen when you play it safe. It happens when you step into the uncomfortable, uncertain, and unknown.

This isn’t just about me changing careers or teaming up with Shane. It’s about building a platform where people like you can find direction, encouragement, clarity, accountability, and focus—the very pillars of The DECAF Network.

Through podcasts, coaching, and community, we’re creating a space where you don’t just talk about your goals—you actually achieve them.

So yes, I’m coming out.

Yes, I’ve partnered with a man.

And yes, this is just the beginning.

If you’ve ever felt the tug to reinvent yourself, to step into a version of life that feels more true—consider this your permission slip.

👉 Join the DECAF Network: joindecaf.com

The only thing standing between you and transformation… is the choice to begin.